I’m re-reading a book called The Oz Principle. It’s all about accountability and staying ‘above the line’. I’d really encourage you to read this one. Today, I covered a passage that really, really hit home with me.
Before I finish that thought, let’s cover the definition of accountable. According to Webster’s online dictionary: “Required to explain actions or decisions to someone.”
The book defines it, “A personal choice to rise above one’s circumstances and demonstrate the ownership necessary for achieving desired results…”
I like this one way better. It makes me think, “Hey, what else can I do now to make this happen?”
See the difference? Now, back to my earlier epiphany.
It’s the part about what can I do NOW. It doesn’t matter that things didn’t go as I thought they should, the question is what can I do now? Anything that happened is, by definition, the past. You cannot change the past. Even if it just happened. What can I do now?
Okay, now to my epiphany (really this time).
There are people all around me that are stuck in the victim cycle. I recognize it because I’ve been there. I’ve been stuck. It was always “their fault”. I was right. Circumstances beyond my control made that job a dead end. I was a victim and until I chose to ask the question “What can I do NOW,” it didn’t change.
You know those people too. There’s always a reason/excuse why…
Question is, in what part of your life are you stuck in the victim role?
- Did you have a crazy parent? That sucks. What are you going to do NOW? They were crazy – can’t change that – it’s in the past.
- Are you sick? That sucks. What are you going to do NOW? Can’t go back and keep from getting sick – it’s in the past.
- Are you broke? That sucks. What are you going to do NOW? Can’t go back and make better financial decisions – it’s in the past.
Get it? Sometimes life is cruel. Can’t change that. What are you going to do NOW?