Accountability is Awesome!

I’m re-reading a book called The Oz Principle. It’s all about accountability and staying ‘above the line’. I’d really encourage you to read this one. Today, I covered a passage that really, really hit home with me.

Before I finish that thought, let’s cover the definition of accountable. According to Webster’s online dictionary: “Required to explain actions or decisions to someone.”

OzEven the language of this one makes you feel like a victim. “Required to explain…” makes you feel like you’ve got to tell someone why you couldn’t/didn’t do something. I think that’s wrong.

The book defines it, “A personal choice to rise above one’s circumstances and demonstrate the ownership necessary for achieving desired results…”

I like this one way better. It makes me think, “Hey, what else can I do now to make this happen?”

See the difference? Now, back to my earlier epiphany.

Accountability

It’s the part about what can I do NOW. It doesn’t matter that things didn’t go as I thought they should, the question is what can I do now? Anything that happened is, by definition, the past. You cannot change the past. Even if it just happened. What can I do now?

crying baby“But you don’t understand! I lost my job, my spouse is a dufas, my parents were nut jobs, I’m too old to…” Sound familiar?

Okay, now to my epiphany (really this time).

There are people all around me that are stuck in the victim cycle. I recognize it because I’ve been there. I’ve been stuck. It was always “their fault”. I was right. Circumstances beyond my control made that job a dead end. I was a victim and until I chose to ask the question “What can I do NOW,” it didn’t change.

You know those people too. There’s always a reason/excuse why…

Question is, in what part of your life are you stuck in the victim role?

  • Did you have a crazy parent? That sucks. What are you going to do NOW? They were crazy – can’t change that – it’s in the past.
  • Are you sick? That sucks. What are you going to do NOW? Can’t go back and keep from getting sick – it’s in the past.
  • Are you broke? That sucks. What are you going to do NOW? Can’t go back and make better financial decisions – it’s in the past.

Get it? Sometimes life is cruel. Can’t change that. What are you going to do NOW?